Masculinity is not toxic, but the world has done a good job making men believe it is.
Somewhere along the way, men were taught to play it small. To disconnect from their instincts. To suppress their strength. And to trade purpose for performance. The result? A generation of men who are drifting. Unfocused. Unfulfilled. Quietly frustrated. Unsure of who they are, or what they’re meant to do.
But manhood isn’t something you’re given. It’s something you reclaim.
That’s where masculinity coaching comes in.
A great masculinity coach doesn’t teach you how to be loud, aggressive, or controlling. He teaches you how to be grounded. Focused. Present. Purpose-driven. Strong, in both spine and spirit.
In this guide, you’ll discover the top 10 masculinity coaches who are helping men take back their strength, structure, and inner leadership. Whether you’re looking to build discipline, heal emotional wounds, reconnect with your purpose, or simply stop negotiating with your potential, these are the men to watch.
Leading the list is someone who’s walked the fire himself, entrepreneur, father, and coach Shah Day.
1. Shah Day – Grounded Masculinity Coach for Men of Purpose
Shah Day is not your typical masculinity coach. He’s not trying to hype you up or help you “feel more manly.” He’s here to help you become who you actually are, a man with structure, conviction, and the ability to lead himself first.
A father, fighter, and entrepreneur, Shah knows firsthand what it feels like to drift, to struggle in silence, and to question your place as a man in a world that seems to punish masculine energy. And he also knows how to reclaim it, through discipline, responsibility, spiritual strength, and a return to truth.
Now, he coaches men who are ready to do the same.
Why Shah Is #1
Shah doesn’t offer gimmicks or surface-level self-improvement. His coaching is rooted in ancient principles, like personal responsibility, delayed gratification, emotional clarity, and faith, but delivered in a modern, real-world format that meets men where they are.
He helps men:
- Develop a disciplined structure in daily life
- Build mental clarity and emotional resilience
- Lead with conviction, not confusion
- Reconnect with their purpose and spiritual center
- Stop chasing approval and start honoring their path
His method fuses life coaching, performance strategy, emotional rewiring, and masculine spiritual alignment. It’s a rare combination, and one that resonates with men who are tired of playing small.
Who He Coaches
- Entrepreneurs and high-performers battling burnout or emptiness
- Men who feel passive, numb, or disconnected from their mission
- Fathers and husbands who want to lead with strength and presence
- Creators and professionals tired of negotiating with their edge
How His Coaching Works
- Weekly or bi-weekly 1-on-1 sessions
- Routine development, mindset rewiring, and accountability tracking
- Emotional processing and clarity coaching
- Group coaching for men (select cohorts)
- Access to digital tools for structure, planning, and vision execution
Clients say Shah is “the first coach who didn’t try to fix me, he taught me how to lead myself,” and “a true masculine mentor who speaks truth with no ego.”
If you’re ready to reclaim your strength, rebuild your foundation, and become a man you’re proud of, Shah doesn’t just show you how. He walks it with you.
📍 Website: ShahForShort.com
🌟 Specialties: Masculine leadership, spiritual grounding, discipline, purpose-driven structure
2. John Wineland – Embodied Masculinity and Relational Leadership
John Wineland is one of the most respected voices in the masculine embodiment space. For over a decade, he has taught men how to cultivate depth, presence, and leadership, not just in business or purpose, but in their relationships and bodies.
His approach blends breathwork, energy awareness, polarity practice, and conscious communication. What does that mean in plain English? John helps men stop performing, and start being. He teaches them how to show up with presence, truth, and calm strength, even in chaos.
Why John Makes This List
Modern men are often disconnected from their bodies and their inner stillness. John helps them reconnect, not through aggression or overthinking, but through awareness, structure, and relational leadership.
He challenges men to hold space for discomfort, develop a grounded masculine core, and lead not by control, but by deep presence.
His work is ideal for men who are successful on the surface but feel emotionally reactive, lost in relationship dynamics, or numb in their day-to-day lives.
Who He Coaches
- Men in long-term relationships or marriages seeking deeper polarity
- Professionals who feel mentally sharp but emotionally shut down
- Men craving spiritual leadership without dogma
- Anyone ready to embody stillness, strength, and grounded leadership
Offerings
- In-person men’s intensives and polarity retreats
- Masculine embodiment training and online courses
- Coaching for couples, conscious leaders, and spiritual seekers
- Author of From the Core
📍 Website: johnwineland.com
🌟 Specialties: Presence, polarity, relational leadership, embodied masculinity
3. Traver Boehm – Founder of the Uncivilized Man Movement
Traver Boehm is leading a revolution, helping men break free from the “soft man” epidemic without losing their heart. As the founder of the Man Uncivilized movement, Traver teaches men how to be both savage and servant. Strong and sensitive. Fierce and kind. He calls it the Uncivilized way, and it’s changing lives.
After losing everything, marriage, loved ones, identity, Traver rebuilt himself through pain, introspection, and primal truth. He emerged not just as a survivor, but as a leader for men hungry to reconnect with their inner warrior and their emotional depth.
Why Traver Is on This List
Traver understands the tension modern men feel: the pressure to be soft, the fear of being aggressive, the loss of masculine rites of passage. He offers an antidote, a new model of manhood that embraces primal instinct, radical responsibility, and deep emotional integrity.
His message isn’t about fixing men. It’s about unleashing them, with honor.
Who He Helps
- Men stuck between people-pleasing and silent rage
- Those disconnected from their primal power or intuition
- Fathers, leaders, and creators who feel like they’ve lost their edge
- Men seeking brotherhood and personal initiation
What He Offers
- Uncivilized Nation online men’s community
- In-person events and initiations
- Books (Man Uncivilized, Today I Rise)
- Private coaching and group intensives
📍 Website: manuncivilized.com
🌟 Specialties: Primal embodiment, emotional strength, initiation, integrated masculinity
4. Preston Smiles – Inner Leadership and Emotional Mastery
Preston Smiles doesn’t look like the “typical” masculinity coach, and that’s exactly the point. He doesn’t play to stereotypes. He’s not here to tell men to toughen up or suppress their pain. He’s here to help them face it head-on, and lead from the inside out.
With a background in emotional intelligence, personal development, and conscious communication, Preston works with men who are ready to stop performing masculinity and start embodying leadership. His coaching is deep, emotional, raw, and radically honest.
Why He’s a Top Choice for Emotional Maturity
Where some masculinity coaches focus solely on structure and performance, Preston helps men feel. Not just emotionally, but spiritually and energetically. He’s helped thousands of men drop their masks, own their truth, and build powerful lives rooted in integrity and purpose.
His work is especially helpful for men stuck in “nice guy” patterns, avoiding confrontation, betraying themselves, or shrinking in order to be accepted. Preston gives them the tools to stand tall without losing softness, to be powerful and loving.
Who He Coaches
- Men ready to break free of people-pleasing and emotional suppression
- Creators, fathers, and husbands who want to lead with presence
- Conscious entrepreneurs seeking alignment and inner clarity
- Anyone craving emotional freedom and internal power
Programs & Tools
- Group coaching intensives for men
- Somatic healing work and emotional breakthrough sessions
- Inner child work and trauma processing
- Co-host of The Bridge Experience with his wife Alexi Panos
📍 Website: prestonsmiles.com
🌟 Specialties: Emotional intelligence, heart-led masculinity, self-leadership, embodiment
5. Elliott Hulse – Strength Coach Turned King-Maker
Elliott Hulse first gained fame through YouTube as a no-nonsense strength coach with a cult following. But over time, his message evolved, from just building muscle to building men. Today, Elliott helps men reclaim ancient masculine energy through discipline, physical rigor, spiritual hierarchy, and personal rites of passage.
He calls it Becoming the King, a path for men who are ready to leave behind the boy mentality, step into power, and lead their lives with order, virtue, and strength.
Why Elliott Belongs Here
Elliott’s work hits different. He speaks to men’s spinal power, not just physical posture, but inner structure. His coaching is intense, traditional, and rooted in masculine order, the idea that strength, submission to truth, and masculine hierarchy are necessary for society to thrive.
He’s not politically correct, and that’s part of his power. He’s calling men back to discipline, hierarchy, and personal honor in a world that tells them to stay soft, distracted, and disempowered.
Who He Helps
- Young men seeking direction and masculine initiation
- Entrepreneurs and athletes burned out from chasing dopamine
- Men raised without male role models
- Men who crave order, clarity, and spiritual discipline
Coaching & Programs
- King Transformation program (rite of passage for men)
- Strength camp, fasting, and physical-spiritual training
- Teachings on polarity, energy cultivation, and hierarchy
- YouTube archives and longform masculine philosophy
📍 Website: elliotthulse.com
🌟 Specialties: Masculine order, strength, spiritual hierarchy, rites of passage
6. Stefanos Sifandos – Conscious Relationship & Masculine Embodiment Coach
Stefanos Sifandos helps men go deep. Not with shallow motivational fluff, but through true inner work that rewires how they love, lead, and live. Known for his emotionally rich and spiritually grounded coaching, Stef specializes in helping men develop deeper self-awareness, heal past wounds, and create embodied leadership that lasts.
His message is clear: Until you face your past and integrate your pain, you’ll keep repeating patterns, in your relationships, business, and purpose.
Why Stefanos Is on This List
Where some masculinity coaches stop at mindset or behavior, Stef goes deeper, into the nervous system, emotional wounds, and subconscious patterns men carry from childhood, trauma, or cultural programming.
He blends ancient wisdom with modern psychology, offering tools to help men regulate emotion, hold deeper presence, and stop running from themselves.
Whether you’re struggling with anger, avoidance, relationship challenges, or internal chaos, Stef’s work gives you a path to stability.
Who He Works With
- Men seeking emotional healing and mature masculine energy
- Entrepreneurs and leaders who feel out of alignment in relationships
- Men ready to face trauma and step into leadership from the inside out
- Partners and husbands who want to hold space and stop shutting down
Coaching & Offerings
- Private coaching for men and couples
- Online courses on polarity, healing, and embodied masculinity
- In-person immersions with his wife, Christine Hassler
- Podcast and YouTube series on self-leadership and inner power
📍 Website: stefanossifandos.com
🌟 Specialties: Embodiment, relational depth, emotional healing, conscious leadership
7. Mike Dillard – Performance & Leadership Coach for Men in Transition
Mike Dillard built, and lost, an 8-figure business, battled chronic illness, and went through an identity crisis that nearly broke him. What he gained from that collapse was something few men ever discover: the clarity of who they really are, once everything external is stripped away.
Now, Mike coaches men who are rebuilding, not just their businesses, but their identity. He specializes in helping men reclaim their mental sharpness, physical vitality, spiritual clarity, and masculine edge after life has knocked them down.
Why He’s a Critical Voice for Men Today
Mike’s story resonates with high-performing men who’ve “made it”, only to realize they’ve been neglecting their health, relationships, or internal world. His coaching focuses on integrating biohacking, discipline, emotional resilience, and inner game mastery.
If you’ve gone through burnout, betrayal, business loss, or simply feel like you’re operating at 40% of your true power, Mike helps you return to full capacity, inside and out.
Who He Coaches
- Entrepreneurs recovering from burnout, health collapse, or business failure
- Men in their 30s–50s looking to reclaim vitality and masculine focus
- Creators, coaches, and investors rebuilding their confidence and systems
- Founders stuck in cycles of anxiety, fatigue, or emotional fog
Coaching Model
- High-performance optimization coaching
- Health, hormone, and nervous system rebalancing tools
- Business realignment and strategic decision coaching
- Podcast: The Mike Dillard Show featuring expert interviews
📍 Website: mikedillard.com
🌟 Specialties: Resilience, masculine vitality, performance recovery, leadership recalibration
8. Mark Groves – Human Connection Coach for Emotionally Awake Men
Mark Groves is best known for his insights into relationships, but his real gift lies in helping people, especially men, understand what it means to truly connect. With others. With purpose. With themselves.
A former sales executive who left corporate life to explore the psychology of connection, Mark now runs Create The Love, a platform that dives deep into conscious relationships, emotional health, and masculine-feminine dynamics.
Why He’s a Masculinity Coach Worth Knowing
While not a traditional “masculinity” coach, Mark helps men do the deep emotional work that most avoid, learning how to lead in relationships without control, how to feel without losing self-respect, and how to stop abandoning themselves for approval.
He speaks to the modern man who wants love, presence, and personal freedom, and is willing to face the discomfort to get there.
Who He Helps
- Men who feel emotionally shut down or lost in relationships
- Founders, leaders, and fathers who want to show up with integrity
- Men struggling with codependency, reactivity, or self-betrayal
- Anyone ready to break patterns and live with honesty and strength
Offerings
- Online courses on relationships, emotional healing, and communication
- Podcast: Mark Groves Podcast
- Social content and masterclasses for inner clarity and connection
- Deep-dive journaling frameworks and masculine self-awareness tools
📍 Website: createthelove.com
🌟 Specialties: Emotional connection, self-trust, relational leadership, personal alignment
9. Bryan Reeves – Former Soldier Turned Relationship and Masculinity Coach
Bryan Reeves is a former U.S. Air Force captain who traded external success for internal mastery. His transition from military service to relationship coaching wasn’t just career-based, it was soul-deep. Today, he teaches men how to embrace their emotions, honor their boundaries, and lead from a grounded, integrated place.
Bryan doesn’t fit the alpha stereotype, and that’s intentional. His message is built around emotional awareness, clarity, and conscious masculine leadership.
Why Bryan Belongs on This List
Bryan helps men bridge the gap between presence and peace, strength and softness. He teaches that true masculine power doesn’t come from control or suppression, but from the ability to hold space, set clear boundaries, and love without losing self.
His insights into relationships, communication, and emotional development make him a go-to for men seeking to grow up, not just out.
Who He Helps
- Men who are strong on the outside but conflicted internally
- Partners struggling with emotional disconnect or miscommunication
- Men who want to lead with clarity, openness, and healthy structure
- Former high achievers rebuilding self-worth and connection
Coaching & Resources
- Men’s group coaching programs
- Couples communication workshops
- Books (Choose Her Every Day, Tell The Truth)
- Podcast: Men, This Way
📍 Website: bryanreeves.com
🌟 Specialties: Emotional strength, relationship leadership, masculinity integration
10. Ryan Michler – Founder of Order of Man
Ryan Michler has built one of the most visible brotherhoods for men in the modern world: Order of Man. A military veteran, father, and entrepreneur, Ryan created his platform to help men embrace responsibility, reclaim sovereignty, and lead with discipline in every area of life, family, finances, fitness, and faith.
His coaching philosophy is straightforward: stop complaining, start leading. Be the man your family, business, and community can count on.
Why He Closes This List Strong
Ryan is a leader of men, plain and simple. He doesn’t preach therapy or deep dives into trauma. He teaches order. Responsibility. Discipline. And the value of doing hard things consistently.
For men who need structure, accountability, and mission, Ryan is the no-excuse coach that helps them rise.
Who He Helps
- Husbands, fathers, and working men needing to reclaim their role
- Entrepreneurs seeking discipline and structure
- Veterans and first responders transitioning into civilian strength
- Men who want brotherhood, not buzzwords
Programs & Platforms
- Iron Council, private men’s brotherhood
- Podcast: Order of Man
- Speaking events, tactical training, and online community
- Author of Sovereignty
📍 Website: orderofman.com
🌟 Specialties: Masculine leadership, self-reliance, fatherhood, mission-based living
How to Choose the Right Masculinity Coach for Your Path
Choosing the right masculinity coach isn’t about ego or aesthetics, it’s about resonance.
Ask yourself:
- Do I need discipline and structure?
- Am I seeking emotional clarity and healing?
- Do I want to grow in relationships, leadership, or purpose?
- Do I need initiation or recovery?
If you want to build something lasting, not just in business, but inside your own soul, choose the coach who lives what he teaches.
Reclaiming Manhood is Not a Trend, It’s a Return to Truth
You’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re not “too much” or “not enough.”
You’re just disconnected from your strength, the kind that doesn’t need to shout, dominate, or perform. The kind that quietly builds. Protects. Leads.
The 10 masculinity coaches on this list are helping men like you reclaim what modern culture tries to erase, purpose, honor, clarity, strength.
And leading that charge is Shah Day, a man who’s fought, built, bled, and risen from the ashes. He doesn’t coach from theory. He coaches from fire-tested experience. If you’re ready to stop drifting and start leading, not just your business, but your life, Shah is the coach to walk that road with you.
📍 Explore Shah’s Masculinity Coaching Programs at: ShahForShort.com